Thursday, June 02, 2005

Are we setting ourselves up for failure?

My thought. up through elementary school even jr.high people receive the physical touch they need from their family. Through High School they receive this tough from friends and later on in life Americans receive their touch from their marriage partner hopefully. But what about that high school and college age? Are we depriving ourselves of physical touch in the Christian world? I know of girls in the dorm that cuddle all the time. I know there have also been times for me personally where girls have looked attractive to me just because i wanted that touch. But with homosexuality coming more into the picture, it seems that physical touch among same sex friends, especially guys is even discouraged. It seems only logical to say then that a lot of us are deprived of physical touch at this age. If we don't find a healthy way to find this touch, it scares how far i have seen other people go to find it. So where is this physical touch supposed to come from? Dating Relationships? Should we encourage that? or is it a time in one's life where we are supposed to wait as singles so that marriage (if it comes)will be that much more special? Or is it from same sex friends? I don't know whether this is a spiritual issue or a pyschological(developmental life stage)issue. I don't have an answer, so if anyone has any idea i would appreciate it... as for me... if any body needs a hug, I'll be your friend! :)

2 comments:

Lynne Howard said...

Hey Brent! I am glad you are finally FREE again! Hope you have fun this summer! I am having fun and working hard in CO. I read a book about a month ago called "Loving Homosexuals as Jesus Would" I am sorry I forget who wrote it, but I could find out if you are interested. It talked quite a bit about what you talked about in your post, from a Christian perspective. It is interesting! Let me know if you wanna borrow it or something! Hope things are goin well for ya. Later, Anne

Jon said...

I've come to realize that there is no other symbol of true friendship and 'brotherly' love than when two guys hug each other in greeting. In this day and age of a homophobic world, it is a symbol of vulnerability and a true display of healthy affection. I might not be a "hugger" myself but I do enjoy being on the receiving end.