This is one of the best and worst things about leading and teaching people. I can spend all the time in the world with people and great intentions, but if I don't have healthy time limits or boundaries set in place, I'm also teaching and giving those around me an unrealistic or bad picture of how to live with healthy limits or boundaries.
I'm in a surgery of the heart time where God is having to tweak and cut out some of these inconsistencies. Never easy, but always good.
The Lord your God will do surgery on your hearts and the hearts of your descendants, so that you may love him with all your heart and with all your soul, and live.
(Italics Are My Interpretation)